The weekend of the Super Bowl & the Phoenix Open here in Arizona is the ultimate socialite’s dream. Sports, drinks, people, & the Who’s Who of Arizona can all be seen walking the greens at the TPC Scottsdale on Saturday afternoon. I have enjoyed the tradition for many years, & this year was no different. After the usual drinks with family & friends we headed out for a great afternoon of socializing, more drinks, & a little golf. However, this year, something happened to me that I hadn’t experienced before at TPC. Let’s talk a bit.
Some background is necessary; Speaking to a white gentleman at the Open, I made small talk, asking him how he got such a cushy job grilling at the most beautiful course in Arizona, on the best weekend of the year. As we talked, he mentioned something that caused me some consternation. Out of nowhere, he mentioned Obama. He said, with an air of sarcasm, that he didn’t need to work, & that Obama would provide jobs for everyone. Stunned, I said nothing. He went on to say that he doesn’t worry about anything because Obama would pay for everything, because, well he already does. I could only respond with, “is that right?” To which his response was, simply “Yep.” I took my hotdog & slunk away, unable to mount a response or truly grasp the underlying meaning of his words. To the man at the hot dog cart near the 16th hole at TPC Scottsdale, I have some questions: Why? Why do you feel the need to accost a stranger at a golf tournament about our Nation’s first Black (see: multiracial) President? Do you approach your white customers & complain about Bush or Reagan or Clinton policies? How does a conversation about grilling & hot dogs turn into one about your disdain for the President? Is it because of your deep-seated racial beliefs that you felt it was necessary to project said beliefs onto me? I just can’t shake the feeling that your frustration with Barack Hussein Obama is tied to his Blackness, & that manifested itself in the words you spoke yesterday to Joel Demitrius White III. (This is also further evidence of why many in our community think that much of the opposition to Obama is because of his race, over pleas that objections to him are in spite of it.) I hate using race as the basis for assuming disparate treatment, but in this situation, I am left with no other choice to assume the worst. In any event, I need to say today, what I failed to say yesterday: your behavior was boorish, inappropriate & wrong; your conduct displayed a level of bigotry & ignorance not readily apparent to many, but necessary to identify & discuss. I can’t imagine a scenario where I’d approach a white person & project my disdain for — insert any of the 43 white presidents we’ve had — onto them. I am not a stand-in for your criticism of the President because I am not him, we simply happen to share a similar racial makeup; it’s critically important you don’t confuse that point. Let’s be clear, I won’t use this space to silence you, ask you to not serve hot dogs at the Open next year, make personal attacks or condemn you as a person. I don’t want to engage in race-baiting & turn this into a case of Black Victimization, because I simply don’t believe those things are conducive to a healthy conversation about race. It’s your actions that gave rise to these words, & we should never confuse the actions of a person with that person’s otherwise moral character. I want to use this space to say to you if your words yesterday are indicative of your true feelings about a group of people you work with, go to church with, serve at a weekend golf tournament, & share a community with, then you are wrong, & you should reassess your thoughts, conscious & otherwise.
I can’t stress this enough: there can’t be true discussion about race if we simply condemn those people who share non-mainstream views to silence. That is not how a healthy discussion is coordinated, & we can’t continue those practices. We punt on racial issues in this country so much & so often, in the hopes that we can drown them out & relegate those beliefs to the sidelines. Let me be among the first to say that we have to go for it on 4th down, & that attempt can only be successful with a healthy, well-rounded, robust dialogue.
I hope you all reblog, repost, retweet, & share this enough times in the hopes that this man sees that what he did was inappropriate. While I dropped the ball on Saturday, I want to use this space to have that conversation. As always, I write from a place of love, unity, & understanding, with the goal of forming a more perfect community.
I love you all, & there’s nothing you can do about it.